My sister said to me at lunch one day, "You know, Sara you're spoiled with Grandma living with you. I did most things on my own with 5 kids." To that I say, more power to you!
Then I explained grandma helps may not nearly as much as most people think. She hasn't been able to help, because of her two jobs. But now hopefully she will have more time with us. Not needing her to just babysit, but enjoy just being Grandma more!
I would NOT have planned a road trip without help. I don't want to hate the trip, yell at the kids or get sick from being exhausted. I know it sounds selfish, but I have waited this long to be a mom, and vacations should be relaxing not suicidal.
This road trip was planned with grandma to help, and then daddy was going to meet us here for the weekend. He got sick and stayed home. So a little harder, but we managed to be consistant and visit with our family without ripping our own hair out.
I also have a bad back, so back and forth out of the car, or eating, playing and sitting too long is very hard on me physically. Having another person help that is supportive in the way I parent, really made our time more enjoyable.
I wish Andrew could have gone with us, but on the otherhand I think having grandma there was a perfect compliment for me and the kids really enjoyed themselves!